I guess if I had a passion it would be empowering woman, I grew up in a home of broken woman, being what was needed for them, I hated how the world had mad them lose trust in themselves, and seem to ignore what they really needed, but as a child I was helpless and I hated that feeling, to understand, to know, to see, yet unable to communicate or connect or help the ones around me I did what I could I suppressed myself and let them blame me for everything, I never thought I would be abandoned by the same people and when I was I had nothing of me left and killed myself only to wake up angry at God or whatever the hell this asshole who controls things is, just let me disappear, I was useless and unable to help the ones I loved, I was unable to do anything right, I could talk right, I could get anyone to listen or understand what I was saying and it felt like when I expressed myself I was punished by the world, I let my mother die thinking I didn’t love her, my grandmother died hating herself, and you won’t let me give up because I want to. Noone really knew what I had done and noone even noticed the emptiness inside of me after that, as I went through life I learned so much from others, and I learned that most blamed there pain or refused to acknowledge there past, it controlled them and made them relive it over and over. That peoples ability to think was hindered because life has become so routine, most of all I want to help woman understand themselves because I don’t think anyone in a long time has every even given woman the respect they deserve, not I money or material things but in the faith in unknown and the trust they have in themselves to be so confident in what they know that there able to be what someone else needs and show them who they are and never lose themselves, the strength it takes to do so much for someone who more then likly will never understand what was done for them only move forward in life with a true sense of self allowing them to find love.
I get caught up on the right and wrong way to do things quite often and I forget there is no rules when it comes to expressing yourself and what you think. It must be from where I’m used to catering everything about me to those around me. When it comes to communicating and connecting with others there is most definitely a right and wrong way to go about things lol. So this expression part is weird for me, I’ve spent most of my life just finding pieces of myself in others and then helping them love thereselves because I wanted love myself but could never see myself. You grow up surrounded by people who “know” themselves and imply that you have to know yourself before you can be anything in this world. The more I learn though the more I see this as a lie, to know one’s self is to limit oneself into a way of being, you should know the things you value, you should know what and why you believe what you believe, but to know who you are when who we are is constantly changing as time flows to me is a lie that only causes you to become stuck.
So I find it intresting that autistic people naturally recognize other autistic people. Something about the brain sees itself in another person and guards are easily lowered and anxiety calmed. What if there’s something to take from this.
What if things like racial biased and racism stem from this. They do studies that show white people are more compassionate to other white people more so then blacks or people of other skin tones. Maybe though its not about racism at all and its more about the brain recognizing someone like themselves and are more willing to help.
I’m not saying that racism isn’t a thing. It most definitely breeds allot of hate and hate causes fear and separation. I’m just saying that maybe its not what we think it is. That maybe we are fighting the wrong kind of battles.
Honestly I believe this applies to allot of things. Even the whole gay movement. Not that being gay isn’t a thing it surly is. Biological abnormalities happen. I’m just saying that maybe once you have been hurt or traumatized maybe the only people you can feel love from are people like you because the walls we make become so high.
If history has shown us anything the more we fight for a better world the more we repeat cycles and cause more destruction. Maybe the key to it all is to stop trying to make the world a better place and just be better people. Then let the world naturally alter itself through the generations of our kids.
I like to listen and compare stories I hear and things people say to try and understand how people work. What I find fascinating is how we use sex to act out tramua and be rewarded for it. All i can really think is that because sex is about survival evolutionaryspeaking lol, its the brains attempt to fulfill some type of invisible pain we feel.
For me it was wanting to feel powerless when my ex left me I was scared of woman. I gave up my power. I felt weak so I looked to feel powerless with sex, for me it was only a few times I tried things with another male, it never made me feel powerless or any less masculine. I try to learn quickly from my anxiety filled impulses. I’ve seen others though that weren’t noticed being abused so now they get turned on by being loud and letting anyone thats around know there having sex. To people who feel humiliation for something in there past and like to be humiliated during sex. Then theres things like girls whos dad doesn’t stick around looking for a daddy in a relationship. Its intresting how things effect what your attracted to. Whats even weirder is that all of these things are not your fault its a invisible type of pain persay thats not attached to a real emotion I dont think or its a real emotion with no proper feeling for it so maybe like having a real arm getting cut off then that pain that sticks around because the brain says there is a arm there lol. So imo the brain attempts to create a feeling or a reason to feel this pain. Which is why we are attracted to certain things. Because without an actual feeling to base it on how can we know that its not how we want to be treated hell how can you even make a choice until you experience it again with a mature brain.
What I find crazy about all this is that people have normalized all these things into kinks and built communities around them. Like they have made it ok to enable trauma. Not that I’m judging people individually just the concept of it. See i agree that it should be accepted but the problem is nothing will ever feel that void. You will always need something more, something extreme, like anything we get used to it, then its not as pleasurable. The only thing left once the pleasure fades is anxeity and emptiness.
Which I guess though this makes sense. If loving my ex gave her the ability to alter the way I love. Then sex which creates a feeling of love and connection(oxytocin) let’s people validate the tramua from the past by finding people to do something to them that validates some feeling they have inside there head. Think of couple who argue allot that like the make up angry sex……essentially validating all the anger they feel.
Like i said its all intresting. Another reason also to stop treating people how they think they want to be treated and treat them with love.
I think this is true done to the very core. Honestly i just believe its the human ego thats wants to believe we are different. Why do I think this is true? Think about it for a moment what makes you different from everyone else? Your abilities, your skills, your knowledge? All these things have been cultivated since the day you was born wether by family or in spite of family. None of that is truly you. There’s a scientist I can’t remember who, that said give him newborns and he can make them into doctors, engineers, whatever really. Think about that he could take a blank slate and make it into whatever. Of course thats in controlled environments. You of course did not grow up in a controled environment you got to experience life and it made you who you are.
In that sense we are all the same. But because of that we all have different experiences which cause us to have feelings that seem to separate us from each other. Deep down though we all run off the same emotions. Those emotions are triggered by our experiences and if you pay attention to the patterns you can see how those patterns match up in people. Feelings make things complicated and complex, but if you get over your egos need to be unique to be special to be different you can start to see that none of that really matters. Yes you are special your perspective on life is unique and its made you who you are. Yet none of that really matters if you don’t understand this and yourself.
We are all the same reguardless of our skills or abilities at the core there is no difference between you, me, that dog, That tree, that animal. We are all just energy in motion. Its the varying level of feelings, of consciousness that makes us different. People now a days in my personal opinion understand themselves less and less. They don’t put the effort in to reframe and experience there past in a new way, they dont put the effort in to heal. They just keep trying to move forward in hope that the past will disappear but this is wrong. If you truly want to understand yourself and others you must do the work. Think about it memories are tied to emotions if you try to get ride of the memory without balancing out the emotion all you do is suffocate it. When something starts to die it only fights harder to live. Your emotions are no different.
So many people are fighting for things to change. But what are they really fighting for? What are you trying to change? Sure they want justice and equality but I’m sorry we are not made equal. Sure we all have emotions and feelings and a body but that’s about all that’s equal about us. How those emotions react and how we interpret those feelings is different for every person. And it always will be because those feelings are based off of your experience and your ability to inturpret that experience.
The problem with this is that everyone feels like an outsider and that noone can understand them and honestly there right. Yet if they would take the time to work on controlling those emotions and express there feelings with each other then by God guess what? You would see the same core emotions drive us all. In that aspect we are all equal.
Unfortunately though noone is doing this instead you have groups like Blm fighting against oppression when in reality there causing that vary oppression they seek to escape. They are driven by emotion and they think people are on there side when all they really have is a bunch of kids from broken homes that are empathizing with them. None of them even understand what there really fighting for. Because of this cognitive dissonance sets in and they reject and ignore anyone who could actually help them because they don’t have the means or foundation to deal with any beliefs but thier own.
Then you have groups like the gay community that lived there lives being different or rejected and they seek to appease people. They make up all these sexual identities for people to define them selves and just go with it. In reality though its making it harder for kids growing up to even know who they are. Having more choices is not a good thing when it comes to devolpment of the brain during the teenage years. Sure it’s great because it give these kids a place to feel like they belong but it doesn’t promote them finding themselves. Hardship and trials are what define us.
If you heal yourself and learn who you are, if you handle your emotions and express your feelings, you will learn that we are all a reflection of each other and the more we try to fight ourselves the more we bring about the vary problems we had to go through. All these problems made us the great people we are sure you may not have liked them but they made you strong, they gave you the opportunity to discover yourself early on.
We should be aware yes of course but just as the process to healing our brains starts with how we think and learning to have positive thoughts to push away the negative ones we should also be living this way. Do your best to positively influence every person you meet. Raise your kids in a good home. Stop letting your ego control you and think that you have any other job but to live. We are at our core nothing but animals. Everything else is nothing but the conscious mind altering our instinctive impulses to survive into outward behaviors to fit the reality we live in.
When you live in a world were you dont need to survive. The brain is seeking to create a fear or an enemy to survive against and we are at the top of the food chain. We are literally trying to survive ourselves. You don’t have to though. You are given this wonderful to live and enjoy. Thats something not many other animals besides maybe a dolphin has. Start enjoying it and stop creating all these problems just to define your exsistance.
What is autism and where does it come from? I don’t pretend to be an expert or to know more then anybody else so this is just a theory. I like to pay attention and honestly its hard for me to stay focused enough on something for very long so I tend to do my best to use everything I do learn and apply it to everything else I know. One thing I know is apparently autism has been noticeable throughout history. I think that most if not all the major changes in this world are brought on by autistic individuals. I say that because if you look back through history at some of our most historic and remembered individuals most people would agree that they show autistic traits and where more than likely autistic themselves.
So how does this help? Simple we already know that history repeats itself over and over. So, what if that’s what’s happening once again. People agree that theirs more autistic people now more then ever. Of course, people may just be noticing it but that doesn’t really matter. What matters is why it happens in the first place. Did you know that someone with asperges would pass a test identifying them as narcissistic? The only real difference is an autistic person wants to care but isn’t really aware of how to care. Someone that is narcissistic doesn’t care they are only worried about themselves and keeping their supply full.
This is why I purpose a more simplistic look at things. Everyone also knows anxiety has become more and more prevalent over the years. When you look at history you will see a pattern with overt anxiety being passed on through generations which leads to revolutions. What if these two occurrences go hand and hand. What if the very core of someone with autism stems from parents having severe cases of anxiety. I mean autism at its core is misfires in the cerebellum I do believe. This is what causes there wiring to be all messed up. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that narcissistic people end up giving birth to autistic kids so often. A narcissistic person lives in an illusion with a belief that is untrue which in itself is the core of anxiety.
So maybe just maybe the cause of autism is that simple. Its nothing but severe anxiety that causes a baby when born and develop a brain that is mismatched to its bodily signals. If this is the case it means that autistic kids are completely normal and the fact that we treat them as not normal is what drives their lifelong battles with anxiety. I mean if you live with someone treating you like you different but inside you have a core belief that you not any different then anyone one else its going to cause problems. Maybe instead of the parents thinking they failed as a parent they should be treating the kid as any other kid and allowing them to grow on their own. Being there for them and sucking it up when things are hard for their kid. Because if you really think h it is life easy for anyone. If no one was there to tell you, you had a hard life would you think of it as anything other than life?
What is it that drives our egos? honestly it can be allot of things but i think a big part of it is our instinct to survive. trapped in the mind looking for experiance, always misunderstood searching for understanding. Survivel now doesnt mean staying alive its turned into what we need to feel alive. feelings have never been so complex and hard to identify though. theres more understanding and so many more people with emotions interacting with each other that what we feel has started to never make sense. Really though there not that complex because there just percieved emotion and emotion is more simple and real. I cant prove anything, this is just a perception of my mind compared to others. One thing that i still have yet to enjoy in life is sex, Its been used to hurt me and I have finally accepted that and letting go of it making me feel worthless. I have many other great things about me that are priceless. Even though the drive to exsist has changed I think one thing that directly effects it still is the instinct to survive. Sex isnt wrong and im not one to judge. but consider this for a moment. Sex is a means for survival not a means to keep us happy. Women use men by having beauty, something that takes great self discipline that needs to be appreciated even If it was done unhealthily it took allot of work and that work shouldnt be invalidated to work so hard and hurt ones own self feeling as if its the only way to do the things they want in this world takes an amazing amount of effort. That self discipline though is a curse. You cant control your body and mind and still be yourself. Blocking out things and building up walls you cage who you are, so you can have all the things you think make you happy. Your caught in the allure of this world, the illusion. In this role you know men will give anything for sex and sex for you doesn’t matter because you want to have experiences and feel. You feed the mens ego and make them believe thier wanted and worthy of what they have gained. In your head though you know its been you all along. Teasing and using all the tactics you have learned to play the fawn. The problem i see with this though is that your feeding an ego for material things and at some pont you was in control until something happens and you realize you can’t stop that you only had the illusion of control. All those men you fed move on and hurt because they was giving you things thinking as long as I feed her she will stay using that sense of power and confidence you give them to gain more things in life. They never thought for second you would never care for them, that what you wanted was something men usually seem to dismiss. In this way the ego is fueling both sides. Men needing to feel that thier gains in life have meaning, and the woman experiance all the things that make them feel.
Sure all is good for awhile and life seems great. The thing is though woman have begin to believe sex is nothing and that they have the control. Men on the other hand think there gains give them power and respect and they can have whatever they want because so. Woman in control of themselves gave in to submission to get what they want. Men in power flaunt what they have as a show of dominance to have any woman they want. This is only what we tell ourselves though. Every girl that leaves only prooves to the man his gains don’t mean anything but his life was built around his ego hes wants to feel powerful and respected not feeling good enough the ego drives to obtain more. Every man that never sees her real needs only makes her feel forgotten and trapped and the ego drives her to keep experiencing more. Behind it though all she wants is to feel something real. Both man and woman worthless and empty they have forgotten who they was before puberty hit. They have rejected that kid who they used to be for the person they want to be. The thing is, who they are was that kid thats forgotten.
That kid so pure innocent and full of dreams almost like a fairytale now. In a world were all we want to do is achieve, we have lost all belief in our dreams. So we project that in the world and use it as a reason to keep moving forward. The car of our dreams, the house of our dreams, the life of our dreams. Our dreams though were nothing more then that. They was imaginary things that filled us with wonder, they gave us hope an faith in all the things we can’t see. As adults though we have made our dreams more real and literal. They no longer fill us with wonder. So why are we giving up our bodies, our time, and all the things that make us special? It all started with hormones and sex. We allowed sex to become a tool to get what we wanted in some way. Wether it was satisfaction or feeling something we then focused on what we think the opposite sex wants and how we can get what we need from them. Our ego slowly changes and we have come defined buy these things. In order to maintain our percieved sense of self the ego does what it can to protect is. So what happens when presented with evidence our beliefs are wrong? Theres plenty of defensive mechanisms the brain will use, denial, rationalization, anger, fear, intimidation. There all tools to protect the beliefs we have built ourselves on. I think these effects are generally masculine and femenin in nature. Now i dont mean male or female im talking of there energy they embrace. masculine energy usually external and competive control with anger and fear, they understand something is wrong but never see themselves. Femininity generally internal with good control of themselves they block out things that dont serve them there unable to see the world for what it is. Wether your male or female I think the brain has the ability to encompass them both generally though females have better intuition and a good executive area I do believe its called (I dont feel like checking right now lol) men on the other hand more instinctal with a good spatial ability.
So how do we fix it? Im not sure yet and thats what i hope to find one day. I see allot of the concepts behind the patterns but i dont always apply them correctly. I know that we need to stop blaming, that includes ourselves and others. What happened happened and its ok now. even though you may have hurt people, guess what they needed that hurt to break there own illusions. If you have made it this far i more then im willing to bet theres been a castrophic event or events in your life that has effected you in a way that has destroyed everything you thought you knew. As i said forgive yourself, your actions up until now have helped others in there journey its ok to trust yourself because as humans we are nothing more then the physical manafestion of the struggle between opposing forces and now that you know this you can begin to see who you are. Forgive others because all the anger and mean things they did slowly caused the balances to tip inside of you even if you couldnt tell, its all happened to help you. Now its a hard thing to do i know im not saying its easy this will be the most terrifying thing ever. Your event or events that have broken you will cause your ego to shatter and your gonna wanna try and pick up the pieces but dont. Those pieces where of a person that wasnt you. You have a chance to stop and see who you was. Who you was never needed anything to be happy and free. Who you was could always find the wonder and amazment of all the smallest of things. Who you was could see the magic that keeps this world alive. That’s when you realize home isnt inside a person or a place, its not inside of you either. Home is nothing more then a belief built on a dream that was all given to us. Even if it was full of abuse or you was given all that you wanted none of that matters. What matters is that somewhere deep down behind all that makes us human. The soul had a dream that was passed on to you and now you can keep that dream going with the faith that no matter what happens to us the dream will stay alive. Treat your soul with love and let love in because until the soul is healed we can never be our true selves, we are part of something bigger reguardless of what you call it, each and everyone of us has a purpose. I believe that purpose is each other. Were all healing the past trying to become whole. Sometimes you mess up and take the wrong path but i promise that path forced upon you or by choice has helped you understand something your going to need. So once you reach that point where you dont know who you are anymore. First forgive all the things you have done. Then forget all the things you have achieved. None of it matters right now because that wasnt who you are. Look at all things unbiased and objectively. Does it align with who you was or was it something you did to get what you thought you wanted. Think back and remember yourself as a child then go through all the memories you have and rebuild yourself. Let who you are be loved. Learn to love people for who they are. Even if they seem to be the bad ones you can love them and treat them with kindness if they enter you life. If it doesnt align with who you are though dont feed it. Put your ego aside and show them your unaffected. A hungry animal wont stay if theres no food. Find things that make you smile and happy. Stop chasing pleasure and pain. Learn to be accepting of your decisions so that you can judge them impartially. Who you are is ok and always will be because who you are never changes. It’s our actions to obtain what we think we want that hides us. Realize that nothing you do matters, but everything you do is the most important decision you will ever make.
So heres the thing from my experience I enjoy making music to calm my anxeity, it helps me out but it also let’s me express emotion and release them. Now if this is a way for me to express wouldnt listening be a way to digest? Which means the words in the music you listen to matter just as much as the music. I think the music opens up the creative side of the brain but at the time when we enjoy the music and mindlessly repeat these words it’s going to in my opinion change our mentality and mindset. Words are important and every person who’s tryed to heal or grow will tell you that. So if words are important to restructure how you see yourself then why wouldnt you pay attention to the words in the music you listen to…….words are emotion the way you say them your enunciation( I love you spell check ) even how you position you tongue changes the way in which people recieve these words. Pay attention.
So here’s the thing I know emotion is real and its the energy constantly flowing through us all. It’s something we all share even if the emotion is flowing at different frequencies its still energy. Feelings on the other hand are not real, there perceptions of the emotional changes in our body, which means there is know way to treat them from outside the body. This is why one must heal themselves, yet to start the healing one has to want help, wanting help means you have went through the process of questioning yourself which means your open to suggestions. Which is why someone who doesn’t want help never seems to change. My question though is if feelings arnt real if there a perception made up of our own processing of information at the time of the emotional spike. Then why is it that people seem to act like there is a certain way to express oneself, isnt every action we take in this world not an expression of feeling we have formed? If thats the case then helping people understand that feelings are everything and nothing should help them understand children as well. Children make up stories, they copy what they see, they mimic what they feel, then then try to use these things to express and assert themselves as a conscious and aware being. What is it about a childs dreams and pretending and exploring things they see that makes adults so terrified. Are people really that scared of being seen as a bad parent, of being cast out by the crowd that the destroy there childs sense of self and foundation of self love. They essentially cast out there own childs person and force them to conform to what they find appropriate. Then when the child acts out needing attention to feel love and self worth they reject or neglect the child. all because they see there own lack of self love and self worth reflected back to them. They cause the child to throw away there sense of self and to become a copy of the parent only and never learn what it means to love themselves because all they do is harbor resentment for the parent, deep down the child knows something is wrong. Yet to reject the parent is to reject who they have become. With no foundation of self love though this is a nearly impossible feet for most. They need to hold on to and believe there parents raised them well in order to function and be a person. There lives become driven to validate themselves through the parents praise or rejection. they start life off living in anxeity and never learn what its like to not have anxiety. Without the anxiety or love theres nothing there but emptiness. What I want people to understand is that emptiness is not to be feared, its scary because its new, that emptiness is the chance to be who you want to be, to go back to when you was a child and restore your dreams. See feelings may be fake but the heart and mind are not. The heart and mind are designed to survive and to move forward but you must trust them first. You must choose to let go of everything that makes you feel complete and full and dive into the darkness. Only then will you see that just behind that veil the little sweet innocent kid who got lost so long ago is there waiting, shielded from all the pain and torture you have endured up until this point. Now though its your job to protect him/her and to build a path out of the darkness for him. To show him/her how strong they are and to love them and allow them to dream and play once again. are you up to the task? I promise you its not an easy one it will never be done by blaming others but it can be done by finding those that are kind and letting them help, never spew what can hurt you to early but also dont hold on to it untill its to late. the kind hearted will always find you when your ready, make sure you able to see them and not fear them.