So many people are fighting for things to change. But what are they really fighting for? What are you trying to change? Sure they want justice and equality but I’m sorry we are not made equal. Sure we all have emotions and feelings and a body but that’s about all that’s equal about us. How those emotions react and how we interpret those feelings is different for every person. And it always will be because those feelings are based off of your experience and your ability to inturpret that experience.
The problem with this is that everyone feels like an outsider and that noone can understand them and honestly there right. Yet if they would take the time to work on controlling those emotions and express there feelings with each other then by God guess what? You would see the same core emotions drive us all. In that aspect we are all equal.
Unfortunately though noone is doing this instead you have groups like Blm fighting against oppression when in reality there causing that vary oppression they seek to escape. They are driven by emotion and they think people are on there side when all they really have is a bunch of kids from broken homes that are empathizing with them. None of them even understand what there really fighting for. Because of this cognitive dissonance sets in and they reject and ignore anyone who could actually help them because they don’t have the means or foundation to deal with any beliefs but thier own.
Then you have groups like the gay community that lived there lives being different or rejected and they seek to appease people. They make up all these sexual identities for people to define them selves and just go with it. In reality though its making it harder for kids growing up to even know who they are. Having more choices is not a good thing when it comes to devolpment of the brain during the teenage years. Sure it’s great because it give these kids a place to feel like they belong but it doesn’t promote them finding themselves. Hardship and trials are what define us.
If you heal yourself and learn who you are, if you handle your emotions and express your feelings, you will learn that we are all a reflection of each other and the more we try to fight ourselves the more we bring about the vary problems we had to go through. All these problems made us the great people we are sure you may not have liked them but they made you strong, they gave you the opportunity to discover yourself early on.
We should be aware yes of course but just as the process to healing our brains starts with how we think and learning to have positive thoughts to push away the negative ones we should also be living this way. Do your best to positively influence every person you meet. Raise your kids in a good home. Stop letting your ego control you and think that you have any other job but to live. We are at our core nothing but animals. Everything else is nothing but the conscious mind altering our instinctive impulses to survive into outward behaviors to fit the reality we live in.
When you live in a world were you dont need to survive. The brain is seeking to create a fear or an enemy to survive against and we are at the top of the food chain. We are literally trying to survive ourselves. You don’t have to though. You are given this wonderful to live and enjoy. Thats something not many other animals besides maybe a dolphin has. Start enjoying it and stop creating all these problems just to define your exsistance.
Ok so first this is just an opinion of mine based off of all the people I’ve spoken to and helped over the years. Heres the thing woman are fundamentally different then men. our animal brains serve different purposes. The goal of a womans brain was to find a strong and stable protector that would defend the home giving the baby and herself time to get to safety. Children as far back as time goes are always more important then the parents themselves. Children when born from two people mating to advance the species have different and more highly evolved genes. these genes are what allows the specicies to continuelly grow and evolve. Here’s the thing though, because woman are wired to find a protector that is stable enough to stay it means sex effects them diferently. When a man is promiscuous it doesn’t go against his biological code, woman on the other had are not biologically designed for promiscuity, will they do it, yes but how many woman out there are able to orgasm from normal sex with strangers? Not many so i hear. Guess what sex realeases in the body, oxytocin which naturally fights stress levels. Why because science has proven stress even days after becoming pregnant can and does effect a baby. i think this is a natural defense to help the species. Now guess what anxiety comes from? lots of dopimine thats unearned. so when you get yourself off( masturbate ) your dopimine shoots up and you dont recieve adequate serotonin to keep anxiety in check because guess what I bet you want to orgasm in sex and not by yourself. Once the oxytocin wears off all that dopamine is still there causing the anxiety. With this understanding you can see how woman easily fall into anxeity. Anxiety after so long causes numbness and an inability to trust ones self which cripples intuition…….but anxiety will also make you seek out what you think is helping you, you will want it and think its helping when really like I’ve said in some other posts you need to say no to the anxiety and the lies you tell yourself and go back to the version of you before the hormones. The little girl who loved to play and dream of being loved. As a kid we are ourselves, before the hormones and the instincts to survive which once again we dont need. We are a more true form of ourselves who ever that is. Even if you was following the rules of your parents inside you had dreams and wants and desires that had nothing to do with sex and material matters, they were pure and honest and part of who you was. Don’t let this world and its pleasures distract you from all the great things that make us human. You have a brain for a reason if what your doing isnt working stop blaming it on all the things you think it is and take a good and fair look at your life and see what’s the one thing that has really stayed consistent. Also what’s the one thing that always seems to get worse and not go away? You have to be able to face yourself and stop letting the world decide things for you. A man can’t do what a woman does, and a woman can’t do everything a man can do. Just like all these young kids fighting to have everyone treated the same, there to distracted and spread out, theres one simple cause, the concept. A man is a man and a woman is a woman. Stop trying to be one another……..do you not tell you kids and friends to not compare themselves or try to be like other people? Why cant people see it’s the same concept with gender. Start being who you are and doing what your good at……..oh and I dont mean what damn body part you have, penis or vagina doesn’t mean shit…….guess what if we can be born with extra or no limbs dont ya think the body might screw up and shoot some estrogen in the brain causing a male to have a females brain? It’s not that far fetched really.
I’m sorry but kinks are nothing more the internal problems from childhood coming out in a way that causes pleasure as way to self validate the way we was treated as a kid. Kinks are not healthy for most people to continually partake in. Your literally causing the same type of trauma to your inner child that was forced upon you in some way form or fashion and being rewarded for it. Why is it that you think most people with these kinks suffer from such high anxiety? It’s not rocket science if you use a little self control and stop trying to fuck all the time. Were literally becoming a species of unintelligent beings souly driven by pleasure and fear. I’m not saying that two loving individuals cant spice things up and try out some role play and fantasy or role reversals. Please do. What I’m saying is this constant meet up with people you dont know and letting strangers have access to the most vulnerable parts of your being as some attempt to balance out the feelings from childhood is twisted and wrong. Listen up if you find someone you love and yall truly love each other exploring kinks and different ways to do things is going to be one of the things that makes the relationship strong and exciting. Dont waste all the mystery and excitement on random ass people who dont care about you just so you can find a lover and be boring. When it’s real love your partner will want to explore things with you. Love should have no fears or secrets and if your inna relationship and you feel as if you cant say what you want or if you partner isnt ok doing the things you wanna do then something needs to change. People who become secure with each other should be willing to put ther ego aside and explore all life has to offer with each other not just sexually but mentally as well. That’s what growing is.
My goal here is to be completely honest. In my honest opinion there is either straight or gay. You are attracted chemically to a man or woman and most know it innate from the time there young. All these other labels people have pushed to express individuality to me is ridiculous, people just dont know who they are and want more choices and it makes absolutely no sense. Correction there is asexual that is most definitely a thing lol. People today just dont love themselves so there scared to really understand themselves. Can you be a straight male and sleep with a male? Absolutely you can! Straight and gay applys to your sexual orientation, as in the sex with which you are biologically designed to enter into a relationship with and that doesnt mean penis and vagina it means chemicals and pheromones, at least to me it does. I dont understand why sexual acts have to be classified as having to do with the orientation of people. Sexual acts with someone your not looking to for a relationship can be a fun and enjoyable relationship in itself. It can help you with self discovery, not to mention its safer then risking having a kid. I believe the whole stigma behind sexual orientation and sexual acts needs to change. Now dont get me wrong I dont mean people should go around having sex just because. I still fully believe sex is a powerful act that is to be respected. It’s just that if your someone who falls close to the middle of the two extremes knowing for sure if you like a man or woman may be difficult. In that sense should you be labelled for figuring yourself out? Hell no! Sometimes it can be hard because the woman can be the assertive one and the male the passive one. Does that make him gay? No of course not but because society says this is the man’s role he may feel as if he might be gay and need to sleep with a man to understand and be comfortable with who he is at the moment. Same goes for a woman. If she is assertive she may be treated poorly once again because of society and need to experiment to understand herself. A little experimenting will not hurt anyone as long as it’s not done recklessly. Yes I’m sure some wont agree but labels nowadays are too specific and defined, labels more so then anything should be blurry and generalized. They should be made to encompass a wide array of qualities that blend into both genders because sometimes the man will be more feminine and the female more masculine, which is ok because they will balance each other out. But if there never allowed to find themselves they will forever be unhappy in roles that suppress who they are as they try and be something thier not.
I mean the key to making a good menu is to reduce the amount of choices for the customer to decide upon, therefore making the experience more delightful. Why should life be any different?